Monday, September 08, 2008

Owning one's quirks

I won't say that it is turning 35 that's done it, I think it has more to do with three kids, a husband, a mortgage and enough work to cover them. I am beginning to tread a path that involves less and less apology for what makes me happy. Now granted, Sean would tell you that the path is rather unmarked and I veer off quite frequently, returning to a territory of apologies and clearance stickers. And he's right, but damnit I walk that other path more than ever before and like the dawn, I am beginning to see how exquisitely beautiful and how fundamentally it is tied to living a happy life without resentment.

Before this trip Sean cajoled me into buying some clothes (I'm sorry, I didn't say I walked the path voluntarily, or that I discovered it myself. It does take a boot in the keester* now and again.) Saturday there was a haircut, really two, but let's not dwell on salon chair horror and just be grateful instead that there are last minute saves that transform the heinous into the divine.

Sitting here in the hotel room, Fin happily splayed in a leather chair after her night in excruciatingly sumptuous bedding (Our daughters have an unapologetic taste for the finer things, something that at once startles and delights this still-learning-to-be-pampered mom) I have the new clothes hung in the closet, fancy new hair products and makeup set out in the bathroom and the ring Sean bought me at Christmas sparkling on my finger like it was born to be in Vegas.

I discovered this morning, as I took a bath while Fin happily sucked her thumb and owned the king size bed. There are women who swear by candle lit baths with a glass of wine and a good book and others who chirp that great chocolate does the trick. I am neither of those, I am a girl who will take a Turkey Club and diet coke for bed and wake up with Starbucks brewed extra strong and a bath with a fresh razor and consider herself content. The best part, not only did I feel content, I felt like I deserved it, which makes everything that much sweeter.

Go do something you deserve and then come back and brag about it, ok?

*And this keester of mine? It looks incredible in my new jeans ;)

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The White House said...

How great! I love that you are in that stage... I sadly am not, but am learning to be content with what I do have (four year old maternity clothes on the fourth round of wear, for one)- a wonderful marriage, three lovely children and one more on the way, a playroom to keep all the junk contained and lots of coffee!

Amy Y said...

I intend to do some pampering in about 5 weeks :)
Until then, I'm happy if my belly panel covers my belly and my shirt covers the panel!

Have fun in Vegas ~ I wish you'd post a picture of your new 'do and jeans :)

Janet said...

Nice to see you indulging in the things that make you happy.

After dropping the big kids at school this morning, E. and I kept walking. We stopped for coffee and I bought her a little treat, because, frankly, she's adorable. I sipped my hot coffee as she galloped down the sidewalk, pointing out birds and flowers and asking me a million questions. Now we're home playing with fresh grapey play dough. A perfect, contented morning that I'm happy to be a part of.

Beck said...

The Baby and I are having a PERFECT, restful day - and a bunch of books just came in the mail! Nice.

Heather said...

sounds wonderful. good for you.

Jerri Ann said...

Hey, I turned 40 last week...I got myself 2 nifty tattoo's. My first two ever. One is of Mickey Mouse and it is on my shoulder, the other is on my ring finger on my left hand and it is the boys initials.

Talk about taking 40 by the balls, that's just what I did. You can see the photos here.

flutter said...

oh sure, give a photo of your hair and not your keester WHATEVER

Damselfly said...

You totally deserve it! You work hard, play hard and love hard. As far as I can tell. Your Vegas trip sounds fun!

Jodi Jean said...

you deserve to be pampered ... how fun ... i'm totally gonna go out and buy some new clothes after #2 pops out ... there are somethings that are deserved!

i LOVE the new 'doo.

raino said...

Ah! Calgone take me away. I am so due for that. Good for you !

Myshka said...

Good for you babe. Your keester will always look hot in jeans, and I'm sure Sean reminds you of that often. Here's hoping I get older and wiser and more confident as well.. I still feel like such a mess sometimes! xoxo fierce hugs xoxo

Mrs. Chicken said...

Hoping to be cleared to exercise soon, which will allow me to be healthful and thinner, making me feel like the slim hottie I once was. That will be something to brag about.

Hope you are still having a good time!

Ree said...

Yep. Beautiful keester.

Doing something I deserve? Accepting myself as I am today. Oh, and that humongous box of Sephora stuff I have coming. ;-)